The Dutiful Son Who Lost Himself
Rohan, 36, was the eldest son in a traditional family. From childhood, he'd been taught that family comes first, always. Good sons don't question, don't refuse, don't prioritize their own needs.
"I was the problem-solver, the mediator, the ATM machine," Rohan shared with exhaustion evident in his voice. "If anyone in the family had a problem, they called me. If they needed money, I gave it. If they needed someone to blame, I absorbed it. I thought this was love."
But the constant giving without receiving had left Rohan depleted. His marriage was suffering because he prioritized family over his wife. His health was deteriorating from stress. His own dreams sat abandoned while he managed everyone else's crises.
"I felt like I was drowning," Rohan admitted. "But when I tried to set boundaries, the guilt was overwhelming. I felt like I was betraying my family, my culture, everything I'd been raised to be."
Understanding Energetic Cords
When Rohan came for a consultation, I explained that we form energetic cords with everyone we have relationships with, especially family. These cords are how energy flows between people - ideally, it's a balanced exchange.
But some cords become unhealthy:
- Draining Cords: Where one person constantly takes energy
- Control Cords: Where one person manipulates or dominates
- Codependent Cords: Where identities become enmeshed
- Guilt Cords: Where obligation and manipulation flow
- Trauma Cords: Where past wounds keep relationships stuck in painful patterns
"I could visualize it immediately," Rohan said. "These thick, heavy cords attached to my stomach and heart, draining me constantly. My family pulling on them whenever they wanted something, and me unable to refuse."
The Cord Cutting Session
Rohan was nervous about cord cutting. "I thought it meant I had to cut my family out of my life," he explained. "I didn't want that. I love them."
I reassured him: Cord cutting doesn't sever relationships - it releases the unhealthy attachments while maintaining the love. It's about freeing both parties from toxic patterns.
Identifying the Cords
Through guided visualization, we identified specific unhealthy cords:
Father: A heavy cord from solar plexus - constant criticism creating a pattern of never feeling good enough
Mother: Cords from heart and throat - guilt manipulation preventing him from expressing his own needs
Siblings: Multiple cords from solar plexus - financial dependence and emotional draining
Extended Family: Web of obligation cords - expectations of constant availability
The Cutting Ceremony
Using sacred visualization and energy work, we began the cord cutting process:
- Acknowledgment: Recognizing the cords and what they represented
- Gratitude: Thanking the relationships for lessons learned
- Release: Visualizing the cords being cut with light and love
- Protection: Sealing and protecting the energy field
- Grounding: Anchoring into his own power and sovereignty
"When you cut the cord with my father, I felt it physically," Rohan recalled. "This release in my solar plexus, like a weight lifting. I started crying - years of trying to earn approval that was never coming, suddenly released."
The Immediate Shift
The transformation began immediately:
Day 1-7:
- Felt lighter, more energized
- Slept deeply for the first time in months
- Less reactive to family demands
- Sense of reclaiming personal power
"The first test came three days later," Rohan shared. "My brother called asking for money, as usual. For the first time ever, I said no without feeling crushing guilt. It was like the invisible hook in me was gone."
Navigating the New Boundaries
Cord cutting didn't remove Rohan's love for his family, but it did change the dynamics:
Setting New Boundaries
With the energetic cords cut, Rohan could establish healthy boundaries:
- Limited financial support to what he could truly afford
- Set specific times for family calls (not 24/7 availability)
- Chose which family events to attend vs. skip
- Protected time for his marriage and personal life
"At first, there was pushback," Rohan admitted. "My family accused me of being selfish, of changing, of not caring anymore. The old me would have crumbled. But something was different - I could hold firm without feeling like a bad person."
The Guilt Work
We did additional healing work around the guilt patterns:
- Inner child healing to address the "good son" conditioning
- Ho'oponopono to forgive and release family karma
- Energy protection techniques for family gatherings
- Affirmations reinforcing his right to his own life
The Relationship Transformations
Over the following months, unexpected shifts occurred in family relationships:
Father Relationship
Without the unhealthy cord, Rohan stopped seeking his father's approval. Paradoxically, this created more respect.
"My father actually seemed to respect me more," Rohan observed. "When I stopped being desperate for his validation, something shifted in how he saw me."
Mother Relationship
The guilt manipulation cord cut, Rohan's mother had to find healthier ways to connect.
"She still tries the old patterns sometimes," Rohan noted. "But without the cord, the manipulation doesn't hook me. We're actually starting to have more genuine conversations."
Sibling Dynamics
His siblings learned he wasn't their emergency fund or problem-solver. Some relationships decreased, but the ones that remained became more authentic.
Marriage Revival
Most importantly, Rohan's marriage transformed. With energy no longer constantly drained by family, he had reserves for his wife.
"My wife said I came back to life," Rohan shared, tearing up. "She'd been watching me disappear into family obligations. Now I'm actually present in our marriage."
Maintaining Healthy Cords
Rohan learned that cord cutting isn't permanent - new cords can form. So he established maintenance practices:
Monthly Cord Checking
Visualizing his energy field to check for new unhealthy attachments
Immediate Boundary Setting
Addressing boundary violations quickly before new draining cords form
Energy Protection
Using visualization techniques before family interactions
Self-Care Rituals
Daily practices to keep his energy strong and centered
Six Months Later: A New Life
The transformation in Rohan's life has been profound:
Family Relationships:
- Healthier boundaries while maintaining connection
- Less drama and crisis management
- More authentic, less codependent interactions
- No longer the family scapegoat or ATM
Marriage:
- Renewed intimacy and partnership
- Wife feels prioritized and valued
- Planning the family they'd put on hold
- True partnership without third-party interference
Personal Well-being:
- Energy levels restored
- Stress-related health issues resolved
- Pursuing personal interests again
- Sense of self apart from family role
Professional Life:
- Focus and performance improved
- Got promotion (mental bandwidth freed up)
- No longer handling family crises during work
- Career goals back on track
The Wisdom Gained
Rohan's key insights from his cord cutting journey:
"I used to think loving my family meant sacrificing myself completely. Cord cutting taught me that healthy love doesn't drain - it energizes. Real love respects boundaries. True family relationships can survive and even thrive when unhealthy attachments are released."
Key learnings:
- Cord cutting isn't rejection - it's healthy detachment
- Guilt is a learned pattern - not a truth
- Setting boundaries is love - for yourself and others
- You can't save others - by losing yourself
- Energy is finite - protect it wisely
Your Freedom Awaits
If you relate to Rohan's story - feeling drained by family obligations, unable to set boundaries, losing yourself in relationships - cord cutting can help:
What Cord Cutting Can Release:
- Toxic family attachments while maintaining love
- Codependent relationship patterns
- Energy-draining connections
- Guilt and obligation programming
- Past relationship trauma affecting current connections
- Energetic hooks that trigger emotional reactions
- Enmeshed identities preventing individual growth
What to Expect in a Cord Cutting Session:
- Identification of unhealthy energetic attachments
- Guided visualization to see and understand the cords
- Sacred ceremony to cut cords with love and protection
- Energy healing to seal and protect your field
- Practical tools for maintaining healthy boundaries
- Immediate relief and ongoing freedom
Ready to Reclaim Your Energy?
You don't have to choose between loving your family and having your own life. Cord cutting allows both - healthy relationships without unhealthy attachments.
Book your cord cutting session and experience the freedom of loving without losing yourself. Not sure if cord cutting is right for you? Start with a Clarity Calling session to explore your situation.
Rohan's story has been shared with his permission. Names and details have been modified to protect privacy while honoring his courageous healing journey.
Break free from energy-draining attachments. Contact us at hello@manoorama.in or call +91 94376 83507 to book your cord cutting session in Rourkela, Odisha.